10 Signs He's Not The One For You...^^..

10 Signs He's Not The One For You...^^..

Some people say they "just knew" that they were dating their
future spouse. But what about the rest of us ? What happens when
you're not sure if he's The One ? If you're considering long-term
commitment or marriage, it's time to ask yourself some tough
questions. Below, 10 signs that may indicate he's not for you.

1@ You have a list of things he needs to stop doing/saying/wearing
if he wants your relationship to work. If you're fixating on his flaws,
he's either not the one you want or you're not ready for a serious
relationship. Cutting him loose allows you time to grow and gives
you the opportunity to meet a guy whose flaws you can embrace
or at least accept.

2@ You don't trust him. A small dose of jealousy can be healthy,
but if you're hacking into his email account, and going berserk
when he goes out without you, something's wrong. If there's
something about him that truly warrants your distrust, then
perhaps he's not the right one for you.

3@ You avoid conflict at any cost. Fighting is healthy. And, when
done right (in the non-accusatory, rational sort of way), it can be
a great way to air grievances, fix problems in your relationship,
and come to a deeper understanding of each other. Ignoring
problems is not the same as having no problems at all... even if
it looks that way.

4@ When you're sad, you don't turn to him for comfort. When
you're a giant ball of tears and snot, do you lock yourself into
the bathroom so he can't see you at your worst ? If you're
worried about scaring him away, one of you isn't ready for total
commitment. Mr. Right should make you smile through your tears
and be a calming, not stressful, presence.

5@ One of you is struggling with an addiction. He's sweet. He's
exciting. He loves you very much. But he loves his alcohol habit or
his weekly gambling fix more. Don't fool yourself into thinking
that you can change him or that your relationship will be strong
enough to withstand the heartache that addiction will inevitably
bring. An addict may be able to change, but he'll do so on his own
terms.

6@ You can't really imagine him as the father of your children. Ask
yourself: Would he make a great parent ? Is he financially
responsible ? Would he be equal partner in your future together ?
If you have doubts, he's probably not the one.

7@ Your long-term, non-negotiable goals in life are incompatible.
You want kids; he doesn't. You go to church every week; he's an
atheist. He lives in the country and doesn't want to move; you
can't imagine ever leaving the city. Superficial differences can be
overcome, but differences in basic values are harder to smooth
over. Ask yourself: " Would I be willing to compromise on this ?"
If the answer is absolutely not, you may not be right for each other.

8@ You don't respect each other. He puts you down in front of
your friends and complains about you to his parents. You roll your
eyes when he talks because there's just something about him that
embarrasses you. A relationship without respect can't sustain itself.

9@ You're not attracted to him. Physical intimacy is a hugely
important component of a romantic relationship. If he doesn't do
it for you, he's probably not your best long-term match.

10@ On paper he seems great, but you have this strange feeling...
Don't ignore your gut. You may get along on a superficial level,
but if your instincts are telling you he's not the one for you, listen.
That little voice inside your head does not lie.

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Norshahuddin Edited July 2014...^^..